Feedbacks

When your friend says, "Tell me if I ever get in a bad relationship.."..you must understand that they NEVER MEANT IT.

We all had friends who said, "Let us make a promise: If either of us gets in a bad relationship,we'll tell the other person we don't like their girlfriend/boyfriend."It's like two 10 year old boys solemnly pledging that they're never going to like girls because they're gross.
Then your friend gets into a horrible RELATIONSHIP.. and you can't say anything!! I've seen it myself manytimes- You try to subtly bring something up stupidly ("Hey man, do you think it's weird that she doesn't let you order your favourite dishes?" and he instantly becomes defensive. Sigh..

3 Takeaways:

• People do not want your honest feedback about their relationship because their intimate partner becomes more important than you(friend). As the old rule goes, if you don’t like the relationship, you bring it up only once and never again. If you want to stay friends after that, you support their relationship, however much you don’t agree with it.
• Usually, these disastrous relationships end (or for worse, they get married…that is a long, long life). And it all could have been fixed with some honest feedback if they were ready to hear it.
• The way you GIVE feedback matters.

Let us see some feedbacks: 

Example: This is a bad way to give feedback.

Example: This is a goodway to give feedback.

You want to know how to improve yourself? You have to ask your people who can give you honest feedback which they thought to say you sometime ago but eventually forgot.You have  to just send these word- for word script which will eventually get you honest feedback.
Just ask yourself that What would happen if you send this to 3 people today?

Hi Name,

I'm trying to come up with a really a good NewYear's resolution for 2015 and I want your help.I know this might sound weird, but I would love your feedback on fewthings. (1) one thing you think I do really well? and (2) one thing which I should improve?

Thanks :)

This email is the kind of thing NOBODY does. And it can payoff in massive rewards. What if you found out that you tend to ramble on and onand everybody hates it? You would never know others like unless you approach them.You'll also get to find out what people like about you,which we don't always get to hear about.

This email works because you're transparently telling people what you're looking for, acknowledging that it's a little weird and asking for one constructive and one positive piece of feedback.

ADVANCE HAPPY NEWYEAR 2015!!